Self-doubt
It’s normal to question yourself sometimes, especially in football. You might think your skills aren’t good enough or that others are better than you. These thoughts pop up even for players who seem confident all the time. Understanding that self-doubt is a part of improving can actually help you grow, because it shows you care about your game and your progress.
When self-doubt hits, try to step back and see it clearly. Notice the difference between feelings and facts — just because you feel unsure doesn’t mean you aren’t capable. Look at what you’ve already achieved, like a strong performance in training or a skill you’ve been improving. Recognising these small wins can balance the negative thoughts and remind you that you are progressing.
A practical way to deal with self-doubt is to set small, achievable goals for yourself. For example, focus on improving one aspect of your game each week, rather than comparing yourself to others. Celebrate each step forward, no matter how small. Remember: confidence isn’t about never doubting yourself — it’s about showing up, trying, and trusting that you can improve over time.
Comparing yourself to others
It’s so easy to look at teammates and think they’re more talented, faster, or naturally better. In a competitive environment like an academy or any team, it’s almost unavoidable. But comparing yourself constantly can make you feel frustrated, anxious, or even resentful, which only affects your own performance. Understanding that everyone has strengths and weaknesses helps you see that comparisons aren’t the whole story.
Instead of measuring yourself against others, focus on your own development. Reflect on your personal progress and improvements, even the small ones. A better pass today, a stronger sprint, or improved stamina are all victories. By shifting your perspective, you can turn what once felt like pressure into motivation, using other players’ performances as inspiration instead of judgement.
Try keeping a short “progress journal” or checklist. Write down one thing you improved on each training session, no matter how small. This way, your growth becomes personal and measurable, rather than based on anyone else. Celebrate your achievements and remind yourself that being the best version of you is what truly matters.
Feeling like you don’t belong
Football life can feel overwhelming sometimes, and it’s normal to wonder if you fit in. Maybe it’s because others seem more confident, or you’re struggling to match their pace. Feeling out of place doesn’t mean you aren’t good enough — it just means you’re adjusting and learning. Everyone goes through moments of doubt about belonging, even those who appear totally at ease.
One way to cope is to actively connect with others, whether it’s a teammate, coach, or friend outside football. Sharing experiences and challenges can help you realise that others face similar feelings, which makes the environment feel less isolating. You might find that some of your teammates feel the same way, and together you can encourage each other.
Advice: focus on what you bring to the team and what you love about football. Engage in training, give your best effort, and notice moments when you succeed or help the team. Over time, confidence in your place will grow naturally. Remember, belonging doesn’t mean being perfect — it means showing up and being yourself on and off the pitch.
Focus on progress, not perfection
Set small personal goals you can control
Remind yourself: confidence grows from effort, not comparison
Speak to yourself the way you would to a teammate